tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post7543446734404556719..comments2023-07-02T19:23:47.154+10:00Comments on scuze i: fruitcake's mistakeFruitCakehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-31946992105869565642012-03-19T20:32:06.184+11:002012-03-19T20:32:06.184+11:00Hi Anonymous, [thanks for joining in]
I agree tha...Hi Anonymous, [thanks for joining in]<br /><br />I agree that it's not right for people to use jokes to offend others. It's not right to set out to offend whether jokes are used or not. But not all jokes are used with the intention of bullying.<br /><br />What I think Dina was saying [not that I have the right to speak for her] is quite right.<br />Suppose I make a joke I think is inoffensive, for example as a child I thought "I have to go to the dentist at tooth-hurtie" was hilarious. I can't imagine why anyone would be offended, especially if it wasn't about them - it doesn't mention any particular person, race, religion, politics, gender etc, it only mentions teeth, time and an occupation. However, if they were offended the joke would still be hilarious to me - and I would be wary of telling any jokes near this person again.<br /><br />But yes, everyone is different, and to say something deliberately hurtful then pretend what we said was a joke, that is not an excuse at all.FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-84595047716854255762012-03-19T13:51:32.725+11:002012-03-19T13:51:32.725+11:00I couldn't agree more, ma'am.I couldn't agree more, ma'am.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-5261682473811994502012-03-19T13:50:27.767+11:002012-03-19T13:50:27.767+11:00How right you are.How right you are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-16519229172099309292012-03-19T13:48:51.227+11:002012-03-19T13:48:51.227+11:00You know? It's not right for people to use jok...You know? It's not right for people to use jokes to offend others. Why you think that it's annoying that someone gets offended by a joke?<br /><br />Suppose somebody tells that an offensive joke in a workplace. He or she could fired for that.<br /><br />I'm tired of that "It's a joke" excuse that comes from bullies. Heck, I've experienced many times and I hate it.<br /><br />If the joke's on the bully, I don't think that he or she would like it.<br /><br />And if some jerk tells a mean joke to a bunch of big mean guys out in the street, he or she could get clobbered by them for it.<br /><br />What's worse than annoying is when a person accuses another for not having a sense of humor. Well, newsflash: No one can force anyone to not have a sense of humor or take a joke. I mean, how would a bully like it if someone else forced him to do what he or she doesn't want to do? Besides, all people are different from one another in a number of ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-42195844024674199022012-03-05T18:59:53.526+11:002012-03-05T18:59:53.526+11:00Hi Red,
I think the visitor stumbled across this b...Hi Red,<br />I think the visitor stumbled across this blog by accident, seemingly enjoyed a few posts, then saw something favourable to gays - after which steam emanated from its ears, top of the skull opened up to let forth a spew of fire and lava, all leading to the inevitable 360 degree head rotation.<br />Seriously, the two opening words were "You sick...".<br /><br />But it's always nice when a friend drops in !FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-10245636277255242362012-03-04T23:37:39.978+11:002012-03-04T23:37:39.978+11:00It would have been interesting to see the response...It would have been interesting to see the response your regular commenters had to the commentee (?!) you deleted!!! I suspect they/we would have been more 'direct' than you were!!! But having said that, there's no reason to put up with rudeness, ignorance and 'direction' even in the name of debate. Because there's a fine line between debate and honest debate.Red Nomad OZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03020668094026661054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-32200038644238305212012-02-28T23:12:48.019+11:002012-02-28T23:12:48.019+11:00Hi Dina, So a joke is not a joke until/unless it s...Hi Dina, So a joke is not a joke until/unless it strikes an individual as funny, whereas a horse is always a horse [of course]. And if someone finds it offensive [the joke, not the horse] it becomes an unjoke.<br /><br />But seriously, I'm with you on all of the above, including all jokes are going to be offensive to at least one person.FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-48146799632836677242012-02-28T02:49:15.511+11:002012-02-28T02:49:15.511+11:00I don't agree that something can't be a jo...I don't agree that something can't be a joke if it offends someone. Almost ALL jokes are going to be offensive to at least one person out there. <br /><br />I think it becomes bullying when someone admits to being offended; and they're teased for this reaction and/or the joking continues. <br /><br />I do agree that it's highly annoying when you're offended by a joke (or simply not amused) and someone accuses you of not having a sense of humor.Dina Roberts https://www.blogger.com/profile/05558115658079175456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-44765036570720854122012-02-27T18:38:57.231+11:002012-02-27T18:38:57.231+11:00Hi Jayne, the old "can't you take a joke?...Hi Jayne, the old "can't you take a joke?" excuse, eh. As in "you are defective because you don't share my sense of humour."<br />Yes, bullying is not a joke.FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-61593648089706916302012-02-27T10:27:02.973+11:002012-02-27T10:27:02.973+11:00Victims should never feel they have to change to &...Victims should never feel they have to change to 'fit in' with others' expectations/views.<br />Yes, most bullying is as a result of poor education, sadly many 'adult' role models feel gay bashing (verbal and physical) is still a free-for-all, especially in the realm of poor taste jokes - if a victim complains the bully gaslights them with "But it's only a joke, haven't you got a sense of humour?" to try to turn the whole thing back on the victim yet again.<br />If it offends even one person then it's not a joke.<br />And it's still bullying.Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02851305238478213940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-46683217433505933722012-02-26T22:19:03.771+11:002012-02-26T22:19:03.771+11:00Hi Diane, I accept that you don't condone bull...Hi Diane, I accept that you don't condone bullying, but I am curious. I'm trying to imagine an example of when a victim should change their behaviour. Could you help me, please?FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-16797335808845744352012-02-26T18:34:08.043+11:002012-02-26T18:34:08.043+11:00Bullying is a huge problem. I dis agree a little w...Bullying is a huge problem. I dis agree a little with Dina. I do not condone bullying in any form but sometimes the victim needs to change their behaviour as well as the bully. As Windsmoke says the answer lies in education.diane bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12002292118984909883noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-66330743478322895042012-02-26T13:44:41.940+11:002012-02-26T13:44:41.940+11:00Thank You !Thank You !FruitCakehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15660225514077942415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-86330349071288048762012-02-26T08:55:12.908+11:002012-02-26T08:55:12.908+11:00I have rarely done that but when commenters attack...I have rarely done that but when commenters attack other commenters, then their post is deleted. It isn't hard to be nice and still argue a point.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-21318713009854639192012-02-26T07:30:21.516+11:002012-02-26T07:30:21.516+11:00Any rude, abusive or unwanted comments that bear n...Any rude, abusive or unwanted comments that bear no relation to a particular post will be deleted by me no matter who you are, i will allow for mistakes though, touch wood its not happened yet and hopefully it won't. I reckon the key to stop bullying is education :-).Windsmoke.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12225394580987872677noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2523157134200402843.post-22477959824432775202012-02-26T03:07:58.104+11:002012-02-26T03:07:58.104+11:00You seem very tolerant of those who have different...You seem very tolerant of those who have different opinions than you; so I imagine this particular comment was overly challenging.<br /><br />I agree about bullying. I hate hearing people being advised to change or hide something about themselves so they're not bullied. Bullying is the fault of the bully; not the victim. <br /><br />I like what you say about adults being able to agree to disagree. I wish more people understood and believed in this concept.Dina Roberts https://www.blogger.com/profile/05558115658079175456noreply@blogger.com